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I talked to a lawyer the other day and he told me something interesting. That child support and visitation are not dependent on each other. In essence you can pay child support, but never see your child and you can see your child, but not be making payments. I wondered if this was true? He said that they are not connected because visitation is the most base right that a parent can have and not making child support payments does not mean that they are a bad parent. Therefore they can’t lose visitation for not paying, except in incredibly extreme circumstances. Is this true?

Your lawyer is correct. However, if a parent gets too far behind in child support payments, oftentimes an arrest warrant will be issued for non-support. This causes some parents to not visit for fear of arrest. Thus, owing child support can lead to non-visitation.

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Creating a healthy balance between work and home is no simple task, especially in today’s fast paced work environment. With the work life and home life out of balance, stress is running high in most families. If you spend more time at work, you lose out on your family and personal life. Alternately, if you spend more time facing the challenges of your personal life, such as coping with marital problems, or caring for your aging parents – on top of financial problems, you are unable to concentrate on the job. There is a great need to reclaim control over your life.

Whether you focus too much on your personal life, or your work life, the outcome is the same – STRESS.

Striking Work-Life Balance
The world has changed, the boundaries have blurred, and work has invaded your personal life. Advancement in communication technology has made people work from anywhere and at any time. This makes you on call 24/7 for trouble shooting or consulting, especially if you are working for an international company.

In the hope of moving up the career ladder in the man-eat-man corporate world, you are working longer hours than is healthy for you. This makes it difficult for you to juggle the demands of your work and family life. A look at how you can face the ongoing challenges to reduce stress, and maintain harmony in work and personal areas of your life:

• Track Your Activities – Keep a log of all your activities, and delegate the ones you do not enjoy, or do not have the time for.
• Check For Flexibility – Find out if your employer offers flexible hours for work – to enable you to cope with your personal and domestic problems. Is telecommuting an option on offer too?
• Time Management – Time management is not only for office work. Manage your time at home also. Organize to do laundry in batches instead of doing it wholesale on your day off. Keep a weekly calendar of family to-do lists. Try to involve your spouse and kids in some daily chores.
• Find Ways To De-stress – Take out time to do things that you enjoy doing, such as going for walks, listening to music, practicing yoga, reading, etc. Set aside one night a week exclusively for your spouse and family. Put the phone off the hook, switch off the TV, and let your collective hair down. Find activities that will rejuvenate you and your family.
• Ensure Enough Sleep – There is nothing more stressful as when you are sleep deprived. This will not only affect your productivity, but can also cause you to commit potentially dangerous and costly mistakes.
• Seek Help – At times of stress, seek help from professionals or from your personal support systems. Talk to your spouse and friends. Every one needs help from time to time and you are no different. Seek help if you find your life too chaotic to manage.

In the end, you need to set your priorities right. What is more important for you – your work or your family? At the crossroads you need to decide what is more important in your life – spending time with your spouse, kids, and extended family, or concentrating just on your work life?

Terence Young
http://www.articlesbase.com/stress-management-articles/how-to-create-a-healthy-balance-between-work-and-home-42993.html

There are several ways in which you can communicate with your divorce lawyer, but some methods may be more effective than others. When a marriage dissolves there are several important topics that need to be discussed and sorted out such as child custody and visitation, division of property, and support. Communicating effectively with your attorney about such issues will help your lawyer properly gather the information he/she needs to put your case together and can reduce your attorney fees at the same time.

In-Person

Meeting with your attorney in-person when there is an extensive amount of material to go through is often a wise choice. When you meet with an attorney face-to-face there is less chance for distraction and it is more likely you will have the attorney’s undivided attention. Any material you or your attorney may have can be reviewed and any questions can be addressed. Each party will have an equal opportunity to discuss and cover any important details. Additionally, the amount of time spent in an in-person meeting is traceable and should be reflected accurately on your attorney bill.

E-mail

Assuming your attorney checks his/her e-mail regularly, email communications with your attorney can be very effective, especially if a response is not needed immediately or an attachment needs to be sent. Unlike faxes, there is usually no charge to receive an e-mail. However, there will be a cost for your attorney to review and respond to your e-mail. Therefore, it is extremely important to keep your e-mail concise and to the point. This is often a difficult adjustment for those who have a tendency to write wordy e-mails. Further, depending on how savvy your attorney is with technology, he/she may spend more time in an e-mail communication than if the message were communicated via phone or fax. Further, the amount of time an attorney actually spends in an e-mail communication is virtually untraceable, so you will want to closely monitor your bill to make sure the charges are reasonable.

Telephone

One of the most common forms of communication you may have with your attorney may be via telephone. Telephone communications can be very effective, especially when you or your attorney have a quick question. Such communication is quick and timely. Additionally, the time spent on the telephone is the most traceable form of communication. The time spent on the phone may be recorded on your phone bill and should be reflected accurately on your attorney bill. However, problems may arise when more than a couple questions need to be covered. Long telephone calls can be subject to distractions and retaining large amounts of information can become an issue.

Fax

Communications with your attorney via fax can be very useful. For example, when a lengthy document needs to be reviewed or if your signature is required on a document (and a faxed copy of your signature is acceptable), faxes can save you an unnecessary trip to your attorney’s office or the wait time associated with mailings. Like the postage fee for a mailing, there may be a cost associated with the fax, such as the call charge or the time a person in your attorney’s office had to stand in front of the fax to send or receive documents.

Mailing

Communications with your attorney via mail can be very effective when a reviewing of a particular document is not extremely urgent. Additionally, any serious issues or requests you may need to make upon your attorney may be best done in writing. Mailings are a common way attorney’s keep their client informed or on copy of all filings and communications with opposing counsel. Mailings are easy to organize and typically easy to manage.

There are several ways in which you can communicate with your divorce lawyer and choosing the right method can significantly enhance your communication with him/her. When a marriage dissolves there are several important topics that need to be discussed and sorted out such as child custody and visitation, division of property, and support. Communicating effectively with your attorney about such issues will help your lawyer properly gather the information he/she needs to put your case together and can reduce your attorney fees at the same time.

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Steven Carlson
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If I don’t take any money/child support from him, do I have to let him see the baby? If so, I am going tolie to him and say it isn’t his. He is way too immature to care for a child and I refuse to submit my baby to that.
I am 16 and plan on not telling him that it’s his baby.

Rights and responsibilities are two different things.

He was the right to see his child unless shown by a court of law that he is unfit.

He is responsible to pay support.

If you are old enough to bring a child into this world you are old enough to that it is an extremely poor decision to deprive your child of a parents. He is probably young, and immature, however he will grow. Just as you will. I would strongly suggest establishing formal paternity and parental rights through the court system. It is absolutly the right of the child to have both his parents supporting him or her financially, emotionally and physically.

Unless a court deems a parent to be unfit it is thier right to see and have a relationship with that child.

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I have a 12 year old that we are currently having a custody battle over. We live in Oregon and she lives in Arizona. Our child does not want to see her because of emotional wounds she inflicted when he was small. The court has decided this is my fault by some strech, and even against the advice of his councelor to allow her visitation. He will be 13 in October and I heard somewhere it is legal for him to refuse visitation after he is 13…..Is that true??

Some stretch, hah! You should be ashamed! Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe the crap the mother is posting either, but the two of you are RUINING YOUR SON’S LIFE.

YOU SHOULD BE CASTRATED!!!!

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